Wow. I do actually find it crazy that I’m 25!
It’s an age I always used to look up to and think ‘when I’m 25 I’ll have done this…’ or ‘when I’m 25 I’ll have been there…’ and ‘when I’m 25 I’ll be doing this…’ Are any of you the same?
It was a lot to achieve by the age of 25… I felt the pressure haha! I thought I’d be a few years into a career, have savings, my own house and most of all, ultimate life contentment.
It’s not wrong to want these things and to work towards them. What isn’t good is when this longing for what we thought we’d have by now, and what others have already, can lead to lack of contentment and dissatisfaction. We search for what satisfies us and makes us happy, when most of the time we don’t even know what that looks like. I think it must be impossible to find until we stop comparing ourselves to our own expectations and other people. One of my best friends tagged me in a post only a few days ago, and it got me thinking. It said…
“I feel like I’m constantly worrying about the next part of my life without realising that I’m in the middle of what I used to look forward to.”
How will I ever be that 25 year old with ultimate life contentment if all I do is compare myself and focus on what I don’t have or what I haven’t achieved yet? Sure, I kind of wish I wasn’t training to be a Dental Hygienist now, and that I knew what I wanted to do at the age of 18… but I didn’t, and that’s okay. We haven’t bought a house yet, but renting meant that we could move to Sheffield with only a months notice. I have a wonderful husband, the most hilarious doggy in the world, a hugely supportive family and more than enough hobbies and projects on the go.
I feel more content in myself every year older I get. I love life and all its little imperfections, and I am learning to enjoy all the small things, because they are the beautiful little moments that bring the greatest joy. Training our minds not to compare and criticise is tough, but is the process that’ll bring you closer to that ultimate life contentment, and the deep happiness we long for.
Here’s to being 25, and not being exactly where I thought I’d be… and being okay with that! 🙂
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